Have you ever surprised yourself with thoughts of cheating on your mate? You fight the urge, but the urge can be overwhelming. You wonder if it may get the better of you, because you're actually planning an illicit scenario in your head. The problem won't work itself out, says Isabella (ext. 9402) who specializes in life transitions. But, there are steps you can take to put out the fires of wanton lust.
Here's what she said:
I have my clients answer one basic question, when this comes up, says Isabella. When was the last time you felt like you? I am always met with a stunned silence, and then the quiet admission that it has been too long. You have to ask yourself why you feel the need to cheat. What hole are you filling in your heart?
In today's society where we spend most of our waking hours at work and we have to set aside time to spend quality moments with the people we love, it isn't all that surprising that the idea of cheating tempts us. When your days take on an endless cycle of responsibility - wake up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, do what needs to be done around the house and fall into bed - what's the fun in that? Your spouse and family feel like an obligation, your sense of play is lost and the need to put some "recreation" in your life becomes a need. The other person provides the sense of fun, "exhilaration" and the freedom to just be you - without worrying about the house, the cat, the dog, and your 1.5 children.
And here's another question, adds Isabella. When was the last time your mate felt like themselves? You see, they may be having the same issues.
So what's the cure? Communication. Sit down with your spouse, and ask them that same basic question, and tell them that you've been unhappy and want to make things right. Commit to having a date night where you don't discuss anything to do with the finances, the house, children - a break when you're both just yourselves, not the Mom, Dad, Husband or Wife - just yourselves. My recommendation is to engage in an activity that you doesn't require much conversation such as dinner, the theater, a movie, sporting event, etc. Then you will have something fresh and new to discuss afterwards. When you build up the good memories together, and you're able to have fun with each other, the lust for the other person should die down.
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